Jillian Stella

is a certified, trauma-informed yoga instructor, breathwork facilitator, sound healer, transformational trauma guide and grief mentor who has been teaching for seven years how to transform the rock-bottom into power, medicine, and fuel through somatics.

 

The Loss that Changed Everything

Several years ago, after my 21st birthday, I experienced the profound loss of my best friend, matriarch, and North Star — my Mom. The grief and pain threatened to overwhelm me, at times, suffocating any sense of hope or purpose.

I was living in a house full of men, dealing with emotional and verbal abuse, feeling angry, completely misunderstood and alone, craving direction and community. The trauma that I accumulated in my body was nearly unbearable after witnessing my Mom endure severe illness, her subsequent loss, and navigating life with my grieving family — so I suppressed it. For years, I silently struggled with insomnia, anorexia, post traumatic stress, anxiety, and depression.

My Pivotal Moment

Each day felt like navigating through a thick fog, longing for my Mom’s comforting presence, covering up my pain with distractions, and grappling with a profound void in my heart, unsure of how to move forward without her guidance and love. Instead of connecting to my internal truths — grief and sadness, I was connecting to false externals — explosive anger and I blamed everyone around me for how terrible I felt. In the depths of despair, I stumbled upon a sanctuary that would become my refuge: my yoga mat.

When I Rose from the Ashes

I fully grieved my Mom for the first time ever on a yoga mat. On that sacred space, I could no longer hide from my suffering. Not only did I find release and solace on my mat but I also rediscovered my voice, my power, and my intuition, all of which I felt had been lost when my Mom died.

Through the practice of somatics and emotional release, I uncovered reservoirs of strength within me and deepened my connection to my intuition, ancestors, and self, gradually transforming my pain into medicine for both my soul and the world.

Healing Relationships through My Practice

Each time I let go of something on my mat, and particularly after witnessing my Dad cry about my Mom during savasana in my yoga teacher training, I received deeper confirmation that this practice held the key to healing. It dawned on me that yoga wasn't just a means to cope with grief; it was a pathway for us to fully experience and eventually transcend our sorrow. It was a pathway to love.

Through this practice, my broken relationship with my Dad began to mend, bit by bit. Moments arose where we found ourselves unexpectedly crying together over my Mom, whether at home or in the unlikeliest of places like local restaurants. It became clear that beneath our long-standing anger was a lot of pain and sadness, waiting to be acknowledged and processed.

Taking Action

Losing my Mom was a profound loss that sparked a pathway of intuition and action. Recognizing the absence of local grief groups for women my age who shared a similar loss, and desperately craving a community that understood, I took it upon myself to create spaces where motherless daughters could heal together. These communities became a source of peace and support, allowing us to share our pain and find power in solidarity.

Writing became my lifeline when verbalizing my pain felt impossible, allowing me to release grief in a creative, therapeutic way. Putting that writing out on social media turned out to be the most transformational tool I had found for myself. It symbolized coming to terms with my truth, showing the world that I needed support, and a reminder to everyone that this is all so impermanent; to embrace life, to book that flight, to laugh and dance, to hug your Mom tight and never let her go.

Eventually, this manifested into an Instagram page known today as Motherless Daughters Club where I sought to inspire our community to heal through storytelling and keep our mother’s legacies alive.

Realizing I Can’t Get Through it Without Guidance

Guided by compassionate mentors and teachers, I continued embarking on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Their wisdom illuminated my path forward, reminding me that healing is not a solitary endeavor but a collective journey we need to undertake together. I couldn’t have gotten where I am today without them.

Meeting Every Layer of Myself

As I immersed myself in various healing trainings and modalities—yoga, meditation, energy work, and more—I felt the difficult layers of grief and trauma slowly peel away, revealing the radiant core of my being. With each step, I reclaimed pieces of myself that I thought were lost forever and that I had never even met before.

Although difficult days still arise (grief never truly leaves, it merely transforms), I am now equipped with the tools to navigate them. I dance with my grief, laugh with my grief, cry with my grief. It's a facet of myself yearning to be acknowledged so that I can release its hold on me. It signifies the processing of the love I long to give to my Mom but cannot. It serves as a persistent reminder that the only way out is through.

My Medicine

Now, standing firmly rooted in my own healing journey, I serve as a facilitator and teacher, offering others the same transformative tools that once saved me. I have since facilitated many events, including at TikTok headquarters, hosting sacred spaces for humans of all walks of life including executives, leaders, and healers to transform on the mat through sound, breathwork, and movement.

Guiding individuals through their own healing process, I provide the compassionate support and guidance that is essential for moving beyond grief and trauma and connecting to personal power, intuition, transformation and love.

Move With Me

The hardest part of our journies but the most rewarding, necessary, and vital — deciding it’s time to face the shadows so that you can fully embrace the light. If you're ready to embark on your own journey of healing and empowerment, I invite you to reach out. Let's connect, and together, we can uncover the boundless potential that lies within you.

Healing is possible, and you don't have to walk this path alone.

 

 
  • 200-Hour Yoga Teacher Trained (RYT 200H)

  • 50-Hour Breathwork & Pranayama Certified

  • 12 Hour Trauma-Informed Training (United We Om)

  • Certified 36-Hour Reiki Practitioner (Level 1)

  • The Trauma Toolbox Trained

  • Certified Professional Life Coach

    • Specializations:

      • Life Purpose Life Coaching

      • Transformational Life Coaching

      • Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Certified Practitioner

      • Hypnotherapy & Hypnosis Certified Practitioner

 
  • Traditional Chinese Medicine

  • Ayurvedic Practices

  • Female Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment